Body language is VERY important. According to studies carried
out over 50% of your communication comes from your body language – what you
DON’T say and less then 8% of your communication comes from what you DO say.
What does this mean to you?
It is MORE important to pay careful attention to HOW you say
things, and HOW you stand and HOW you act than it is to WHAT you say (at least
initially).
You see, you could have the BEST game in the world and be
able to really get any woman to like you loads, for example online, but if you
used those same successful techniques in the real world and lacked obvious
confidence, lacked eye contact etc – You would simply CRASH and BURN.
Honestly, body language is SOOOO important in attracting
women. Later in the course we’ll go into how you can use the female’s body
language to READ her mind and know what she’s thinking. This article is about
YOUR body language.
Ok… So, I’ll cover the basics as the advanced stuff is beyond
the scope of this article.
Body language basics:
1. Smile
You have to make the female feel at ease and comfortable
that you are a friendly and fun guy and you are not a psycho as quick as
possible. Especially when talking to her for the first time. You also need to
let her know that you are confident and comfortable around women. A big and
genuine smile is the best way to do this. It works. In fact, if you ever get an
Ice Queen that you can tell is about to give you the “dead eye”, give her a big
smile. Practice smiling at random people. You’ll be surprised by how many
people smile back and at how many doors open to you. Smiling WORKS. Just don’t
make it a cheesy, fake smile ;)
2. Eye contact
As you know there’s nothing worse than staring at a woman’s
chest – or even looking. It makes you just like all the other guys who drool
over her. If anything you should use all your skill to NOT look at her chest –
she’ll wonder why her womanly powers don’t work with you and she’ll seek your
attention and subconsciously TRY to get you to look!
When talking to her, try to maintain eye contact. Not too
much because it can be intimidating, but if you aim to have eye contact with
her around 70% of the time you are talking, this should be comfortable for most
women. Don’t stare like a crazy man, just be natural but if you naturally look
away or are slightly shy when it comes to eye contact, make a conscious effort
to have a little more. Eye contact can make serious connections within people.
They say the eyes are a window to the soul and I think there may be some truth
to that. There are even speed dating type events being run that involve just
staring into each others eyes – and from what I hear, they are pretty
successful.
Maintain eye contact. Not too much, about 70% of
conversation time. Be natural.
3. Upright posture
Guys can get away with a bit of a hunch, but women really do
prefer men with straight, upright postures. Look at all the big film actors
like Pitt, Cruise etc. They all have good posture. It says to a woman you are
confident, healthy, and strong (at least in mind). It’s just generally more
attractive and says lots about who you are. Plus it’s good for your back and
will help strengthen your back muscles making it easier to maintain.
Get into the HABIT of having an upright posture.
4. Gesticulate with open palms
You will not hear this tip anywhere else (or if you do, it
was almost certainly copied from this course).
I’ve gone into in depth studies of body language and this
one is a good one to use in MANY circumstances – I’ve adapted it here after
solid testing to picking up women – however, some people suggest that when
combined with a few other verbal and non-verbal techniques it can even give you
a 50/50 chance of getting out of speeding fines!
Anyway, basically, when you are talking to a woman and
trying to make a point (that puts you in a positive light) or defend yourself
(for example, a girl suggests you might be a player) you talk and using your
hands you have open palms facing upwards. Keep your arms in front of your body
with your palms facing the sky and smile as you talk.
It works VERY well on a subconscious level to suggest you
are being honest and telling the truth. And if you want a woman to begin to
trust you, making her think you are being straight with her, is important.
This open palm gesticulation MUST be combined with a smile
to work effectively.
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