How to Attract A Woman: The Best Ways to Handle Physical
Contact
By Tiffany Taylor
Touching/physical contact is an absolutely vital component
of seduction. You can’t successfully pick-up a girl without first establishing
a basic level of mutual tactility – I.E. Before you can move in for the kill by
kissing and/or sleeping with her, you MUST first have a regular, healthy amount
of touching that works both ways: she flirtatiously puts her hand on your knee,
you encircle her waist with your arm and pull her a little closer – whatever
form the physical contact takes, it has to be present for you to achieve your
final goal of actual seduction. And that right there is where the problem for
many men lies: how can a guy get the ball rolling when it comes to tactility
and physical closeness? If the girl’s not being tactile, how can a guy develop
mutual physical closeness without freaking her out or scaring her away?
Often men just “go for it” and consequently end up making
the girl feel uncomfortable or even slightly violated because of their rushed
attempt at physical closeness. Other men decide they don’t want to risk putting
a girl off, so hold back any kind of touching or bodily contact – doing so
usually sends out the wrong message, that the guy is either not interested in
the girl, or that he’s simply too timid to show it, neither of which are
attractive scenarios in the mind of a good-looking, fun-loving girl. Okay, so
what’s the solution to this awkward problem?
Quite simply, you just need to follow a few basic rules or
procedures, all of which conform to the personal boundaries of most girl (and
therefore don’t appear uncalled for or rushed) but at the same time clearly
indicate that you’re a confident guy who’s not afraid of getting to know girls
and even showing it through casual, relaxed physical contact. So, let’s take a
look.
Many men think that touching a girl in any way when they
first meet them is an absolute no-no. But that’s simply not true. To form a
positive, strong first impression and create an immediate bond with a girl when
you first introduce yourself or get talking, casually and gently touch the
outside of her right arm while at the same time verbally expressing something.
The outside of a woman’s arm is not intimate enough a place for the touch to
feel strange or out-of-place, but at the same time it’s a clear-cut sign that
you’re a personable, socially adept kind of guy. Don’t be afraid to give it a
try – you’ll notice the benefits immediately.
Once you’ve started a conversation with a girl, or when you
randomly find yourself chatting to a woman you really like the look of, it’s
important to keep up the physical contact. Doing so helps maintain the bond and
rapport you’ve already created and also helps build it further, into mutually
felt sexual attraction. You can use something called ‘Stealth Tactility’ to do
this. Quite simply, stealth tactility involves making physical contact with the
girl in a disguised way. For example, if she wants to go to the bar or bathroom
but doesn’t know the way, you can use stealth tactility by placing your hand on
her shoulder, drawing her in a little closer, swivelling both of your bodies
round until you face in the right direction, then point past other people or
obstacles with your other hand to where she needs to go.
Lastly, always try to use a ‘contact close’ when you finish
your conversation with a girl. For example, after swapping numbers or arranging
to meet again, give her a kiss on the cheek or a hug and a kiss. Many men think
that the hard work’s been done once something’s been arranged for a later date,
but making physical contact before you part with a girl is always a great way
of ensuring she remembers you and really cannot wait to see you again.
Categories:
MEN AND WOMAN
