There’s something that often happens when you’re out playing
the ‘seduction game’ – that is, when you’re actively looking out for girls you
think you’d like to hook-up with. Many men have experienced it, and many
thousands of men still do experience it when they themselves are out playing the
game. It usually goes something like this: you’re in a group, talking to a
couple of girls. You’re with a friend or two, perhaps having drinks in a bar or
at a party. You’ve got your eye on one girl in the group in particular and want
to make something happen, make a bit of a connection. Thing is, she’s proving
the hardest to connect to – sure, she smiles and talks to you nicely and
politely, but she’s not returning your flirtatious gestures and comments much,
if at all. It’s like she’s playing hard to get or something, whereas her female
friends seem to be much more playful and flirty.
This doesn’t happen because you aren’t her type or just
because sometimes these things happen (or don’t) – there’s a different, special
reason the girl you’re interested in doesn’t appear to be interested in you and
it’s got a lot to do with psychology and social standing. You see, when you
show you’re interested in a good-looking girl who’s with her friends, you
inadvertently bump up her ego and feeling of self-worth. She knows you’ve
chosen and are most interested in her and likes this feeling of elevated
importance. However, she also knows that if she reacts by becoming really
flirty and obviously attracted to YOU, she’ll lose the higher social value she
has over her friends (probably the reason you targeted her in the first place),
so she therefore maintains her unattainable, “I’m a bit too good for you”
status.
However, you can blow this problem out of the water by using
DEFLECTION THEORY. You turn the situation on its head and reverse the
psychology of your target female by deflecting your attention AWAY from her and
ONTO one or more of her friends. When you show her friends (who have lower
social value/worth than your target female) more attention and affection, you challenge
her ego. So, in an effort to regain her superiority in the hierarchy of her
circle of friends, the girl you’re really interested in will subconsciously
invest much MORE interest in you by flirting and being playful. As so many
women do, she gives into wanting what she feels she cannot have – and, of
course, you’ll be happy to have her. She is, after all, the hottest of the
group and the one you wanted in the first place. Here’s how to deflect your
attention onto one of her friends to make her (the girl you want) feel as if
her ego has been challenged and thus make her feel an instant and undeniable
desire to get your attention and “win” you back.
Use strong eye contact when talking to all of the girls.
However, when you’re talking to your target female, occasionally glance away
and towards one of the other girls (who will probably be talking amongst
themselves or to your friend/friends if you’re with any) and give a slight
smile before looking back at your target. This jackhammers a sense of competition
into the subconscious mind of the girl you’re really interested in and
immediately makes her want to fight for your attention.
Casually make physical contact with her friends more than
her. For example, touch them on the side of their arm to get their attention or
when laughing and joking.
When sitting down or standing around talking as a group,
face slightly more (as in, the direction of your body/torso) in the direction
of one of her friends more than her.
Using deflection theory to challenge a girl you’re
interested in’s ego and therefore make her want you more is just one
psychological technique you can use to boost your pick-up game. Combine it with
others and you maximize your success with the opposite sex in ways most men
have and never will experience. You can be the guy that gets the girl!
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